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Through Dennis Mullen’s I learned that Teri McCollum died May 12 in a hospice setting and that a fellow balletomane is planning an August 6 memorial for her on the beach near her former apartment.
With her passing, San Francisco Ballet lost its most avid fan. I went on the Web to take a look at her Website, Odette’s Ordeal, A Sight for Sore Toes And Serious Ballet Fans. WordPress has, unfortunately, closed it, or my aging computer lacks the proper credentials to access Teri’s postings.
I remember Teri mentioning that Word Press wanted some money for its platform, and so she switched to Facebook. Anyone who availed themselves can find any number of curtain calls which Teri recorded on her cell phone. She also recorded the ceremony at the French Consulate when Pascal Molat received his recognition from the French Government, a warm and intimate bi-lingual twenty six minute recording.
My own connection with Teri was comparatively minimal, but distinct. She just appeared in the San Francisco Ballet Press Room about 2016 or 17 with her WordPress website, rhinestones clustered in her carrot-hued hair and around her neck, eyes sparkling and missing little. I was introduced and conversation subsequently ensued. The curriculum vitae was recited, including her gratitude to Ronn Guidi for his encouragement and subsequent use of her in Oakland Ballet’s corps de ballet. I learned that her skin turned red while dancing so she had to use white powder on her face for performances.
Teri’s, childhood problems, her MENSA qualifications, and music experience came later along with marriage, divorce and property loss, mingled with informative bits about dancers. I remember in particular her mentioning that Sofiane Sylve had helped Carlo Di Lanno for the Bruhn Competition the year he walked away with the recognition.
I remember two statements she made early in our chats. One was when she said, “I consider San Francisco Ballet my niche,” and I felt a certain invisible barbed wire had been established. While about the same time, she also divulged to my astonishment, “I consider you my mentor.” Visions of what P.W. “Bill” Manchester had meant to me rose in my mind; silently I felt there was nothing comparable in her statement.
I remember her introducing me to a solist from Het National Ballet who danced here just one season, mentioning said dancer’s meager scheduling. Bits and pieces like that made me realize Teri made herself available to San Francisco dancers to a remarkable degree, considering her full-time position managing a dental office in Marin.
And, then, suddenly, her e-mails announced her lymphoma with broken bones, which was followed by additional breaks. Doctors’ visits were facilitated by San Francisco Ballet dancers, mentioning Sasha de Solo, plus Carlo di Lanno cooking for her; another unnamed dancer cleaned her apartment. She wrote of the pleasure and peace that living near the ocean provided; every once in a while she provided a glimpse of the shoreline she enjoyed from her windows.
Her job evaporated; she mentioned her 401K funds were invaded and over time she was eligible for Medi-cal. The December before Covid she managed to make the opening night of Nutcracker, appearing in the Press Room, smiling and sporting a rhinestone pin I had added to her collection.
Covid severely cut into communications whether by dancers and/or friends. She mentioned that Pascal Molat had checked in on her. Silence ensued as I habituated myself to three-times daily bed pan routine close to home. July 17, Dennis Mullen forwarded Tab Buckner’s email stating Teri died May 12 under hospice care and that a memorial is planned August 6 at the sea she so loved.
Sayonara, Teri, you have been a genuine chapter in San Francisco Ballet’s dance life, to the artists you befriended who, in turn, rose to the occasion. And, without question, Tab Buckner who shared standing room with Teri.